I am what you would call an over-achiever. No, seriously, I am. You can ask my friends and everyone around me. I have always put a lot of pressure on myself and had high ambitions in school and everywhere else (yes, I do realize that I might sound like an arrogant ass when I say that, but whatever).
A friend of mine asked me yesterday, after I had rambled on and on about exams and how nervous I was, why I was so insecure. This made me start thinking. To be like this seems to have more bad sides than you'd think. So I made a list (as I always do, control-freak as I am).
Good:
I get good grades.
I challenge myself and therefore grow.
Bad:
I get stressed (I have to sleep with braces to protect my teeth from when I bite together, for example).
I am almost never satisfied or content with my achievements.
I am always scared that I will come across as lazy or that I'm not "enough".
...and this is all because I put so much pressure on myself! So, conclusion of this: Chillax, Alice!
My first practice: the debating exam. I will stop going on and on about how I will fail and simply realize that it really doesn't matter. I feel a lot calmer only by that thought actually. Maybe I won't need my braces tonight...
Anyone else who recognises this stupid habit of pressuring yourself?
I am not an over-achiever, sometimes I wish I was more. I used to be more over-achiever before university though :D I guess I got too chilled :D
ReplyDeleteI am very satisfied when I get grade 9 but also very satisfied when I get just 6, because I know that in the end it doesn't matter that much.
But I have the same problem with biting teeth while sleeping before a stressful day, My God I hate it and it hurts so much in the morning...
That's a very good way of looking at it, I need to learn to be happy about my results no matter what they are too!
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